Wednesday, August 29, 2018

Why Time for You is Never Selfish

As school is starting and our schedules are changing and adapting to the school schedules, I've had something pop into my mind over and over again that I've felt the need to share with you. Even during my race, the thought came to my mind and distracted my thoughts of any pain or tiredness for miles here and there. So I thought it should be shared.

I've heard several people express the feelings of selfishness over their time spent away from their kids to exercise. Or to do anything else for themselves for that matter, but specifically for exercise. This hurts my heart that people are feeling bad about that. 

Mommas, we are spending all day long taking care of other people.  There are probably times during your day that you think about yourself, or what would be nice to do or have if you had the time right now. But are you actually taking the time to do something for yourself when the chance comes?

I am a huge believer that you can not take care of other people if you don't take care of yourself! Pretend you're on an airplane with your family. You start to experience some turbulence and the oxygen masks come down. You have to put the oxygen mask on yourself before you put one on your sweet kids, because otherwise, you'll run out of oxygen yourself, pass out, and no one will be there to help your kids.  I feel like it's the same with your day to day life. 

Doing something nice for yourself at least several days a week (and I'm not talking big things like pedicures or lunch dates with friends or buying yourself something new, but even just the small things) is NOT selfish.  There is no reason to feel guilty about doing those things for yourself.

For me, it's running. I can't tell you how many times just this week I've thought to myself "I'd rather be running right now".  Running 5 days a week, getting in some exercise, having an hour or so to myself and my thoughts with no interruptions, that's what helps fill my cup full enough to pour some into my family's cups.  Taking time to take care of myself is in no way selfish.  It helps me to be able to focus on my kids when they do need me. It helps me feel energized and motivated and ready for when they come home from school asking for snacks and help with homework.  It helps me feel more calm and patient when the times come to teach and discipline them for things they are doing when they shouldn't be. It helps me slow down and focus on spending more one on one time with them, enjoying the snuggles and the laughs and the conversations.

Without running, (without time to take care of me), I don't have those qualities. Without running my house clutters, so does my mind. My productivity is mainly sitting around scrolling the internet way too much. My patience wears thin, my eating habits go down the drain, and so does my energy. I can take care of myself in other ways! And I try to when I can't get a run in. But running is my thing. That's the love language to myself. Some quality alone time sweating and pushing myself harder than ever, proving to myself that I can do hard things. And clearing my mind along the way.

Running is my thing, but it doesn't have to be yours. Whatever you choose to do to take care of yourself is perfect. But remember that it's not selfish. Remember that even though you're taking time away from your family to spend on you, it doesn't make you a bad person. Just because you are spending an hour to focus on something that seems selfish, you don't have to feel guilty because, in the end, it's for them. It's to help you be ready for them.


  1. I agree. I am a better mom because I have projects that are important to me that I do for myself. I think that the only time it becomes selfish is if you ignore the impact it has on the people around you. Which nobody does but if you did that it could be selfish.

    1. Exactly! I’m so glad you have something you love to do FOR YOU! Thanks for reading Amy, have a fantastic day!