Wednesday, March 7, 2018

Reworking Your Goals with Baby Steps

Let's talk about goals! I know, ugh, we just got done hearing about goals! You guys, can you believe it's that we are a quarter way through 2018? What? So let's check in on our goals. How are you guys feeling about them now? I can tell you that my goals are looking pretty big right now, and I'm not sure they were all doable sometimes and when I see them that way I start to lose motivation.

The main goals I made for 2018 are dress a little nicer, drink more water, run a 10k race, and keep my house cleaner. You can read more about them HERE.  I've made other goals since then too but these were the big goals that I really wanted to work on this year.

Dress nicer: My biggest thing with this is that I always used to wear old running shoes as my regular everyday shoes and for some reason this year I felt like they really made me Haha, I just felt unfashionable and I felt like I needed to feel better about myself.  So! I can say I'm feeling pretty good about this. I got new shoes that make my feet happy, I even wear leggings now and then sometimes. So I feel like this goal is going well.

Drinking more water. Eh, this one is better some days than others. I feel like the trick to this one has been finding THE water bottle for me. I tried the Blender Bottle watermark bottle, and that helped pretty well for a while. I made sure to keep a water bottle upstairs and one downstairs so I always have one by me, which also helps. So I'm working on it. Sometimes water just needs more flavor and that's where Hint Water comes in. Hint water is filtered water with a hint of flavor in it. It's super yummy and it helps me stay hydrated because it doesn't get so boring like plain water.  My favorite flavor was the pineapple and the watermelon.

Running a 10k. Guys, this one's looking big right now. I had it! At the beginning of the year, I was ready and I probably could have jumped into a 10k and done well in it. Now it's not looking great. I got this injury and I'm not sure how long I'll be out for (fingers crossed that all goes well and I can start running again in the next week or so). I will hopefully be able to start really working on this again soon so I can get ready before the 10k that I had my eye on.

Keeping my house clean. This one has been better most days than not. I'm working really hard with the kids to clean up after themselves and that was the biggest problem here. We're not there yet, but we're getting there.

So as you can see, some of my goals are going well and some need some more work. And at this point in the year, I think that's really great. And now that I've updated you on my goals, let's talk about why some of us may have fallen off the wagon with our goals and how to get yourself back at it.

There are a lot of people out there who make goals and from the beginning, they start to give up. And I feel like there are a lot of reasons this can happen.  Being scared of failing, not knowing where to start, not having a clear vision of what your goal really is...the list can go on and on.  It's important to make sure that when you're making the goals in the first place, you aren't setting yourself up for failure.  Goals need to be clear, easy to plan and easy to track.  If you made a goal to exercise more it might feel a little bit overwhelming. But if you change your goal into "I want to strength train three times a week" now you have a clear goal that's easy to plan and easy to track and you have a way bigger chance at achieving that goal.

Now that you have your clear goal in mind, let's break it down into a plan.  It can be really overwhelming to do this because there might be a lot of steps to take to get to where you want to be. It's ok to pick a goal that takes a lot of work, we just don't want to get overwhelmed and forget the goal altogether. So we need to break this down into baby steps. Have you seen What About Bob?  If you haven't seen that, go watch it. It's one of my favorite movies of all time. Dr. Leo Marvin tells Bob about his book Baby Steps and explains that in order to function without having a panic attack, Bob needs to break down his goals down into baby steps. "Don't think about all the things you have to get out of the building. Think about what you have to do to leave the room and the elevator and so on..."

Take your goal and try to break it down into 3 or more baby steps that you can see the accomplishment easier and when you start to see that progress, you'll feel more motivation and excitement to keep going on your goal.

A lot of times when we want to try something new (like getting in shape for some people) we get a little nervous about not meeting the goals, not knowing how to achieve them, not being good enough, failing. They get scared of the goal and they come up with reasons why they can't make it. To them, I would quote JK Rowling and say that you are failing by default. The best thing you can do is try. Even if you've never done a jumping jack in your life, you always have to start somewhere and why not now? The worst that can happen is that you'll learn something new. 

And sometimes we start working on a goal and we feel like it's not going well at all. We lose all motivation because once we start working on it we find out that it's harder than we thought it would be to make progress. The goal that comes to mind here is losing weight. I have to be honest that this is not something that I've ever struggled with, in fact, I struggle putting on weight outside of pregnancy. But I've seen/heard it from a lot of people I know. And it can be really really frustrating. You feel like you're doing everything you're supposed to be feeling and nothing is making you feel progress. And, again, to be honest, I feel this in a lot of other areas in my life. I feel like Bob (again from What About Bob...not to be confused with my brother Bob) when he's begging for some help. "I'm baby stepping, I'm doing the work, I'm not a slacker!"

When this happens, take a step back. Don't stress so much over the goal but take a look at what you're trying to do. Write your feelings, and thoughts down. Talk to someone who can relate and you might be surprised to see that you're not alone in this frustrating feeling.  Try to rework your goals so that you can feel more progress on them. The biggest thing about goals is that you're going to have mind games and you're going to have bad days, but you can choose to keep working on them instead of giving up.

How are your goals going?

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  1. I’ve been wanting to drink more water too!

    1. I used to be way better at drinking water but sometimes it's just so boring.

  2. Keeping my house clean is a big goal of mine lately!

    1. way to go! I think this will be a work in progress for me for a while. Thanks for reading!