Monday, October 26, 2015

What I Do Before a Date Night with My Husband

Trevon and I have been married for almost 9 years. When you get married everyone has some kind of advice to give. One of those pieces of advice that were given to us was to keep dating. We haven't always been the best at keeping that advice, but we are working on being better about it. Sometimes that means we put the kids to bed early and get take out for us, sometimes that's just watching a movie at home with some kind of treat, sometimes that means getting a babysitter and heading out for the night.

No matter what kind of date we are having I like to get myself ready for our dates to help me feel more confident and relaxed going into the date. Sometimes switching from mommy mode to adult/wife mode can feel hard. But when I get myself ready I feel more excited and less stressed about babysitters and bedtimes and all of that. I can focus on our date and enjoy the time we have on our own a little more.  So here are some of the things I do every time we have a date night.

First things first, I clean myself up if I haven't done it already. Some days I just don't want to shower first thing in the morning. If this is the case on a day that we have a date planned, I make sure to set some time aside while the girls are doing quiet time to shower and wash my hair.

I change my clothes.  There are a few different reasons I do this. I don't want to go on a date with a stretched out shirt that the kids have been pulling on all day and dirty pants.  So I'll change into my nice jeans and a clean shirt. I would have done this before we were married, so why not do it now too? I also do this because, if we are going to dinner or something, I tend to get cold at restaurants so changing helps me be more comfortable.

I re-do my make up.  I don't wear a lot of makeup normally, but I fix what makeup I do have on. This is again something I did before we were married. And it's something I learned from my mom. I noticed growing up that she never went to dinner with my dad with out freshening up her make up. I mostly do this because it makes me feel pretty. And when I feel pretty I'm way more confident.

I re-do my hair.  At very least, I brush through it and pin a little back or something. If it needs a little more curl put in it, and I have time, I'll do that too. For the same reasons as above.

I make sure the kids are ready. That they have a babysitter or are ready to come to our game night/ family dinner etc with us.  I get a little bag packed with extra diapers for V.  Sometimes we will also take P.J.s with us. I either make them dinner ahead of time or I let the babysitter know they haven't eaten yet so that they will be ready. Most of the time, we feed them first.

Cross off the to-do list. I make sure all of the big things on my to-do list are crossed off. There's nothing worse than going on a date night and worrying about everything you still have to get done that day.

Be happy. I try not to get frustrated with the kids or babysitters or Trevon if anyone is running late.  I want to go on our date in the best mood and have fun. If one of us is in a bad mood for the date, it will ruin the entire evening.

How often do you go on date nights?

Do you do anything before?

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